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Families: Reestablishing Relationships after a Storm

Families: Reestablishing Relationships after a Storm

 

Families: Reestablishing Relationships after a Storm

 

Family relationships can be damaged for many reasons. Conflicts can arise from varying views and hurt feelings over both serious and petty issues: finances, house chores, jealousy, etc. Ignored, these conflicts can lead to painful rifts between family members. Resolution of these issues and rebuilding and strengthening of family ties are possible with counseling.

 

More People, More Views

It is normal for people to have different views about things, even among families. A household with more members, such as children, extended family, or stepchildren, has more potential reasons for conflict. 

For instance, a parent may see rules as a form of guidance, while an adolescent child may perceive them as intrusions on their independence or violations of their rights. A stepparent may consider a decision to be fair, but a stepchild may see it as biased. A grandparent may consider something an act of kindness, but it may be misconstrued as meddling by a parent or a grandchild.

Because there is love among the members of a family and they do not want to aggravate the issues, there is also a tendency for everyone to keep their emotions under a tight lid. While this can prevent immediate and frequent clashes, it may lead to more intense conflicts later on. This is why it is practical to seek ways to resolve issues affecting relationships, especially after a major conflict.

 

Resolving Anger

The home is supposed to be a haven where family members seek refuge when things aren’t good at work or school. When the family relationships are in shambles, however, there is nowhere to go. This can push people, especially children, toward negative influences and risky practices or habits.

The price of doing nothing about these disagreements, particularly after an emotional confrontation, can be confusion and anger. Confused children may act out and manifest their inner turmoil in anger. Even the adults in the family are vulnerable to anger when they perceive each other’s actions as intrusive, hateful, wrong, bitter, or vengeful. Because families love another despite the failings, these perceptions may not be real.

To reestablish broken family relationships, the anger has to be resolved. Anger can tinge people’s perception and mar their judgment. Resolving anger and conflict may sound easy, but actually getting into the act can be very nerve-wracking, particularly when one person believes that they didn’t do anything wrong. This is why seeking help from an experienced counselor can be necessary.

 

Rebuilding Family Harmony

Rebuilding broken family relationships takes love, patience, and honesty. Forgiving, regardless of who is wrong, is an act that requires love. Rebuilding relationships can take time and effort. Unfortunately, anger and distrust can be buried very deep in a relationship, and achieving harmony may take more than one trial; the family has to be patient and stay committed to the process. For forgiveness to work, it has to be done with sincerity. 

Resolution of anger also takes listening. It is important to understand how your child, stepchild, spouse, parent, stepparent, or grandparent feels. Listening is also an important ingredient of a healthy, two-way conversation. Communication is usually the first thing to break down in a relationship and must be repaired when healing a relationship.

 

Counseling Can Help Your Family Heal

Family members can settle issues among themselves, but it can be very challenging. If parents have unresolved issues with their child, it will not be easy for the child to take their words seriously. Children involved in a conflict may be accused of misleading others to save themselves. No, it will not be easy. In fact, it is nearly impossible to be a hundred percent fair and objective within your family or to be perceived that way. This is why seeking help from Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC, can be your best option.

The first real advantage of using the services of CCS is having a neutral setting to resolve your issues. Outside the usual milieu where these conflicts happen, the participants can be more open or amenable to solutions, which they may perceive as more fair and justified. A counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC, can provide that neutral environment for your family. They can also help you sort out the issues troubling your family, heal and rebuild relationships, and strengthen your family bonds to weather fiercer and bigger storms in the years to come.

 

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