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Releasing Yourself from Grief and Trauma with a Counselor


Releasing Yourself from Grief and Trauma with a Counselor


Grief comes to everyone. It will come to you at one time or another when you lose someone or something precious in your life. Loss can be traumatic, particularly if it happens unexpectedly or if you lose someone very close to your heart. In this case, bouncing back and moving on can be very difficult.

Grieving is natural, just as moving on is, after some time. But, for some people, getting back on track and moving forward can take a long time, especially when the loss is traumatic and the hurt is intense. Know, however, that there is no other option, if you wish to live normally again.

What can you do to release your psychological grief and heal from the trauma of loss? A counselor can help.


Understanding Grief and Trauma

Grief is a natural reaction, but it isn’t the same for every person or for every loss. It can be more overwhelming, like the hurt and sorrow will never let up, when the loss is devastating or happens following a traumatic event. For example, the loss of a job can throw you off balance, but it is not likely to be as painful as losing a beloved child, parent, or partner.  

A traumatic event that is far outside what you normally expect, referred to as “complex trauma,” can be even more devastating. The grief in response to a complex trauma can go far beyond the usual pain people experience, in terms of intensity and duration. Recovery from this kind of grief may not be easy.

Acute grief may also take the form of “complicated grief (CG).” According to Deborah Khoshaba, Psy.D., in a Psychology Today post, “acute grief can gain a foothold and become a chronic, debilitating mental health condition that worsens over time, rather than gets better. Some people are more vulnerable to it if they have ‘pre-existing mental health conditions, multiple stressors, emotional dependency, or substance abuse issues.’”


Grieving and Healing on Your Own

It is normal to initially keep your grief to yourself. Be patient, because healing can be very slow, but know that healing can be facilitated, if necessary, by seeking professional help. While there is no “timetable” for healing, it may be unduly prolonged if you have been living with grief for months or years on end.

Grief is personal, so you will grieve differently from others who have been exposed to the same trauma. You can’t compare your speed of healing to theirs, but if you are extremely shaken up, consider seeking help and support from a professional. For complex trauma and grief, adjusting to the enormous changes without help can be exceedingly difficult.


What You May Be Doing Wrong

Burying or ignoring the trauma won’t help. In fact, Help Guide advises that “the pain will go away faster if you ignore it” is a myth. Rather, “Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For real healing it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it.”

When you are experiencing complex trauma or grief, the symptoms will not dissipate if you just ignore it. In many cases, ignoring your feelings can only temporarily suppress them. Your grief will get worse and resurface later. This often happens with unprocessed traumatic experiences from childhood. When children have no way to understand or process their trauma, the memories and feelings can be buried for a long time until they “explode” at some future time when it is least expected.


Release Grief and Trauma with a Counselor: A Good Option

Complex grief resulting from complex trauma can be likened to a roller-coaster ride—it is rough, with many ups and downs, which are deep and long, especially at the start. Ignored, it can get worse or more prolonged. If you or a loved one can’t take the bumpy ride anymore, know that recovery can be facilitated with the help of a good counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services — Sanford, NC.

Talking to a therapist or counselor who understands complex trauma and grief is healing. While family and friends can offer support at this time, releasing your pain with the guidance of an experienced grief counselor can be immensely cathartic. End the roller-coaster ride now. Cry if you must, but face life each morning with hope and inspiration. Call now for an appointment. It’s time to get started.


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