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Carolina Counseling Services - Sanford, NC

Call: (919) 895-3222 OR Text: (910) 308-3291

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310 N Horner Blvd

Sanford, NC  27330

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Get Help from Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC!

If life has been tough lately, there is no need to feel distressed, hopeless or helpless. Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC, through its independently contracted therapists, can help you move on towards a calmer, more rewarding and happier life. Your decision to call CCS is well-placed.  Adults, children, families, and couples who are proactive in pursuit of ways to resolve their current concerns and to feel better are welcome – we are ready to help.

  1. FEEL BETTER AFTER YOUR FIRST SESSION: With a qualified/licensed therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC you will know right away that you made a very good decision to trust CCS.
  1. IT’S IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD: The CCS Main Office is in Fayetteville, NC, but there are therapists that conveniently work near you in Sanford.
  1. DON’T WORRY ABOUT AN INSURANCE REFERRAL: Just come with your ID and insurance card.
  1. TRUST US TO KEEP YOUR INFORMATION CONFIDENTIAL. Your “secrets” are safe with us. We ensure that your privacy is protected and the confidentiality of your records are well-guarded by using encrypted tools and by abiding with the HIPAA laws.
  1. MAKING AN APPOINTMENT IS SIMPLE. To make your first appointment and/or find out more, simply call (919) 895-3222.
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Welcome to Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC!

Feeling better, regardless of your distressing or overwhelming circumstances, is something you can do for yourself. Unsure where or how to start, consider seeking professional assistance from Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC. Once you meet with your therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services, you will know right away that this is one of the best decisions you have ever made.

 

Services brought close to home …

If you are feeling anxious about travelling to meet with your therapist, you’ll be happy to know that Carolina Counseling Services has just brought you the service you need right next door. The contracted therapist maintains an office located in Sanford.

 

Your “secrets” are safe with us …

We understand that keeping matters under wraps is of utmost importance to you; it is the same for us. Expect Carolina Counseling Services to uphold your rights to privacy and confidentiality. We abide by our commitment to protect your private information by ensuring you are coming to an office that will not bear any mark to signify you are coming for counseling. Instead, you will be welcomed by a warm environment that is conducive to talking and positive thoughts.

 

CCS care starts when you make your call …

Once you make your call to make an appointment, we provide you the assistance you may need to make things flow easily. If your insurer is (examples Blue Cross Blue Shield, Tricare or Medicare), don’t bother with referrals, we’ll take care of them for you. If you are covered by another insurance company, just call and we’ll help smooth the rough edges for you.

 

Trust comes with experience …

Having 21 years in the counseling services has been our pleasure.  Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC isn’t just a symbol of experience in Fayetteville; it has become a symbol of hope too for a number of individuals and families in North Carolina. It has its main office in Fayetteville and has branched out in Fuquay-Varina and Southern Pines. It is now expanding in Sanford by contracting highly qualified therapists who can help you right here. With their help, you can now look forward to the prospect of a more enjoyable life for you and your family.

We are waiting for you; feel free to get in touch with CCS using the phone number on this site or this email: Verna@ccs.hush.com. We will return your email or text by calling you to ensure the privacy and security of information.

You mustn’t wait for your emotions, thoughts and life to take a downward spin before taking action. It pays to be proactive as a parent, spouse or worker/professional, so you can prevent your concerns from becoming complicated and stressful. Find the professional assistance you need when you call Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC. The contracted licensed professionals will see to it you are comfortable in a soothing office, so you can start unloading what’s weighing you down.

 

Don’t wait!  Call now to schedule your appointment!

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How can Treatment for my Depression help my Family?

About 14.8 million people in the United States are experiencing depressive symptoms says the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. This means that there are also about the same number of families experiencing difficulties due to depression, not to mention the individuals and families who are not part of the statistics being undiagnosed and untreated.

Nothing can be more distressing than to watch a loved one agonize from the symptoms of depression. Sooner or later, without help or treatment, it may exact a heavy toll or exert profound effects on the immediate family too. With treatment in the hands of a qualified professional, you can recover from the symptoms of depression to rebuild your relationships with your family and create a happy home for them.

The Impact on Marriage and Children

Despite the love that binds the family, many marriages became weak because of depression. Though it may not necessarily be the root cause of a divorce or unhappy marriage, it can contribute to the marital conflicts in the same way that marital conflicts and clashing parenting styles may contribute to depression. It is often hard to ascertain which causes what, as the entire family is caught up in a distressing situation. But one thing is certain, depression and unhappy families/marriages go hand in hand.

Parents experiencing depressive symptoms are also likely to have children who are as vulnerable to the condition. Living in an unhappy home and with parents who are focused on resolving their own concerns, they may grow confused and unguided. They may also try to escape their homes by seeking out fulfillment outside the home. In the wrong company, they are open to a lot of risks. To stop the “vicious cycle” of depression known to affect the rest of the family, professional help is important.

Breaking Free from Depression as a Family

Depression is treatable. If one of the parents is experiencing depressive symptoms, it will help the whole family if both parents would seek professional help in “family therapy.” The affected spouse may benefit from it in terms of getting a proper evaluation, diagnosis and treatment.  Meanwhile, the unaffected spouse joining in the therapy would have the opportunity to understand what the affected wife/husband is going through, which is critical to be able to effectively support him/her.

Family therapy can also help the couple work on the conflicts and set the stage for the restoration of their communication and for healing to take place. There is a good 70 percent chance that distressed couples can end up happy together (Lebow et al., 2011). For your family to break free from the symptoms and profound effects of depression, your marriage deserves to be saved.

Get Help for a Happy Marriage and Family

If you are experiencing depressive symptoms, it is important to consider getting treatment from a professional. While a family’s love and support can help, it takes a professional to administer an evaluation of your symptoms, make an accurate diagnosis and develop and work with you on a program of treatment so you’ll feel good again. It is best to not wait until you just “snap out of it” – that may never happen.

Depression is a treatable condition with the right professional, as well as love and support from your family. The good news is you can get that help from Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC.

Rather than nurture the distressing feeling and watch the rest of your family experience difficulty too, why not opt for the best and most effective solution when help is available anyway. With the help of experienced therapists independently contracted with CCS-Sanford, your family stands to benefit from family therapy.

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Putting an End to Grief

Grief is a natural and normal response to a significant loss, especially if such a loss is life changing.  The death of a loved one, the loss of a career, a beloved pet, a home, retirement, and illness – all of these will result in grief. Grieving is a process that takes time; it is also a process that varies from person to person.

However, although all people experience grief at one point or another, people can also help themselves get past their profound sorrow. No matter how deeply wounded a person is, healing will come. If healing seems to be taking too long, you can make it happen by seeking professional help.

Acknowledging Grief With Help: Bring it to a Close

The irony about grief is this: those who accept their grief usually get past it sooner than those who deny it or put it in the back burner by being “strong”. In order to come to terms with a painful life change, it is necessary to face your feelings and acknowledge the sorrow that comes with your loss. It is normal to remember the bittersweet memories of what has been lost; this is not the same as feeling shadowed by misery.

However, you do need support when you go through this process, otherwise you can get stuck in it. Unfortunately, your family or your friends may be just as devastated as you. Therefore, professional help is the key to getting this support. The shoulder you choose to cry on cannot be attached to a heart that is grieving too.

 

Talk Therapy: Express your Grief

It is important that you express your grief, even if you are not the “talk-about-it” type. Expressing your pain will help liberate you from it. Again, there is a word of caution regarding this: friends and relatives cannot be your long term sounding board, especially if they are in the same grieving boat as you. Of course you will need to share things with them, but they do not have the emotional distance needed to just listen without reacting to your woe.

The best way is to find a counselor who uses talk therapy so you can channel your grief. A professional counselor can help you talk about your grief and help you achieve healthy catharsis when this is appropriate. An effective therapist can help you release your emotions in a productive way, than keep it under a tight lid.

Don’t Deny Yourself the Help You Need

Unfortunately, grief is not something you can just pack away and be done with. Its intensity comes and goes, and people can find themselves falling into despair and depression while dealing with it. Some well-meaning friends and family members sometimes make things worse with their prescriptions to “get over it” or “move on”, while others may make you feel guilty if you do.

The best way to get past grief is to be good to yourself. Do what it takes to keep healthy, don’t deprive yourself of enjoyment when this is possible, and get professional help. Professional support will help prevent you from falling into depression. It will also provide the assistance you need to explore your feelings and gradually face your future.

Take the First Step

If you or a loved one is experiencing grief, the best way to lighten your burden is to seek professional counseling. The independently contracted counselors at Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC, are highly skilled at assisting people who are grieving. More than that, however, they will provide this assistance with genuine care so that you will indeed find yourself ready to move on.

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Shedding Light on Some Basic Psychobabble

You Need to Understand

It’s quite common for people to use the term “depressed” when they are feeling down and sad, “bipolar” when they are just moody, or “acting out” when someone’s behaving in a bad way. These may be the casual meanings of these terms, but they have specific clinical meanings in the field of mental health care.

Clinically, being depressed isn’t just being sad for a while: it means being in the state of clinical depression, or in a major depressive episode, which comes with a list of symptoms. “Bipolar” isn’t just a transient bittersweet feeling or experience. It is a mood disorder that can be very disrupting as it takes you from a depressed state to a manic state and back, again and again. In psychology, “acting out” is not used to refer to all bad behavior: for a behavior to be called “acting out,” it has to be driven by an internal, negative emotion.

 

Psychobabble—What Is It?

“Psychobabble” is derived from two words— “psychology” and “babble.” As the word “babble” suggests, it is a kind of talk or writing that conveys hollow or incomprehensible meaning. People may use technical or psychological jargon in an improper context because they lack understanding of what the words really mean.

The widespread use of “psychobabble” is in part related to the proliferation of self-help books and blogs over the Internet. The words may be used without the appropriate definitions, explanations, or examples, putting them out of context. Such books and blogs can be helpful in educating the general public, but can also diminish the implications of serious concerns.

If non-expert authors dismiss the seriousness of a legitimate emotional condition or behavioral issue, people may brush aside treatment. For instance, a child with selective mutism may not get proper treatment because the parents think he or she is just shy, resulting in an inability to perform and adjust in school.

 

Differentiating Types of Mental Health Counselors

Just as I am confused by technical jargon from other fields of study— “IV vs. IM” in medicine, “burette and cuvette” in chemistry, “charmed and charged particles” in nuclear physics, etc.—you may be confused by terms such as “mental health counselor.” I may not be of much help in differentiating jargon outside mental health care, but I can certainly make it easier for you to understand psychobabble.

“Mental health counselor” is a generic term that covers all the professionals that provide mental health care. It can mean a counselor, family therapist, marriage counselor, behavioral health provider, mental health provider, psychiatrist, or psychologist. When people use these words loosely or interchangeably, the real meanings are obscured. For professionals in the field of mental health, the differences are clear. What is important for us is for the public to understand our purpose: to help you feel better by sorting out and resolving your issues and by diagnosing and treating the symptoms of your emotional conditions.

 

  • Psychiatrists: They have attended medical school and are trained in general medicine. They have clinical exposure and are qualified to assess, diagnose, and treat the symptoms of emotional conditions. They are also qualified to prescribe psychotropic medications. In fact, that is the primary approach they use in treating their patients.

They are the best professionals to approach when your case has intense symptoms and therapy seems not enough. There is a shortage of psychiatrists. Since most psychiatrists can only see you for 10-20-minute follow-up sessions doing medication management (30 minutes to 1 hour for the first session), most psychiatrists prefer that their patients also work with a therapist.

 

  • Psychologists: Psychologists may have doctorate degrees—PhD or PsyD—but they are not medical doctors and cannot write prescriptions in the state of NC. To become licensed psychologists, they must qualify by passing a national test and do a minimum two years of supervised work. Aside from counseling, they also do evaluative testing.

Psychologists perform research, but can also evaluate, diagnose, and treat the symptoms of patients with emotional conditions or behavioral issues. Their clinical training allows them to use psychotherapy as an intervention to treat the emotional suffering of their clients.

 

  • Licensed Clinical Social Workers (LCSW): LCSWs attain this status after meeting all the requirements: two years’ minimum experience under the supervision of an LCSW, a master’s degree in social work, passing a comprehensive licensing exam, and compliance with the licensing requirements of the state. Their training on culture sensitivity with a client focus qualifies them as capable counselors for individuals, families, couples, and groups.
  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists (LMFT): To become a licensed marriage and family therapist, one has to complete training in marriage and family therapy. They also need to have a minimum of two years’ clinical experience and pass the licensure exam in the state where they intend to practice. They treat their clients within the framework of couples, marriage, and family systems.
  • Licensed Professional Counselors (LPCs): To become an LPC, one is required to graduate with at least a master’s degree in counseling, or a related course. In addition, they must also satisfy all the requirements of the state where they will be practicing, such as passing the National Counseling Exam.
  • Pastoral Counselors: These professionals can competently provide counseling and spiritual guidance. They have been adequately trained in psychology and theology, and may have a master’s degree in divinity. They are either licensed or certified, depending on the state where they practice.

 

“Behavioral” and “Mental”—Understanding the Similarities and Differences

Two of the most commonly interchanged words in psychology/psychiatry/counseling are “behavioral” and “mental.” The former is gaining ground and is considered more “politically correct,” and more and more facilities are using it in naming their programs. “Behavioral” is welcomed by many and seen as less stigmatizing than the word “mental.” However, some sectors and individuals are still not happy with the word. Elana Premack Sandler of Psychology Today shares three things that make it “oppressive”:

  • One, the outlook places the burden on the change of behavior, rather than on what can be causing the behavior, which can be an external factor.
  • Two, “behavioral health doesn’t seem to imply that there are root causes for what we see as behavior.”
  • Three, it seems like it lacks the authenticity of a mindset that is sympathetic to the causes of those struggling with mental health issues.

“What’s in a word?” you may ask. Knowing the different types of mental health counselors or the distinction between “behavioral” and “mental” may not be that important at the outset. However, if you are struggling with emotional issues or an emotional condition, it is critical to know the Parameters to Use in Choosing a Good Therapist. When you are deciding whom to seek help from, you will realize that you need to take the counselor’s qualifications, training, expertise, and treatment approach seriously. When that time comes, you can count on us to be there when you need us. Call us: Carolina Counseling Services Sanford, NC.

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9 Reasons to Get Counseling Now

Counseling can be the first positive step that proactive people take to better enjoy their lives.

There used to be a time when people who saw a counselor or therapist had to talk about it in secrecy. These days, people talk about counseling over coffee and attending therapy is something many people do on a regular basis. Admittedly, there are still a number of common misconceptions about counseling, but these are readily brushed aside by those who understand its value to improve quality of life.

Because you’re human, you’re bound to have highs and lows. Because life can’t always be a bed of roses, you will need help. A counselor can provide that help. Counseling isn’t just for individuals who are running out of options: it is for everyone who wants a better life.

 

There are many reasons to seek assistance from a caring counselor or therapist:

  1. To treat the symptoms of an emotional condition.

When your life, or that of a loved one, is being turned upside down by depression, a mood disorder, anxiety, etc., counseling or therapy can help. You need not wait for the symptoms to get worse or wreak havoc on your life before seeking help. Save yourself from depression with counseling.

Therapy in the hands of a counselor can bring hope and change. Counselors have been professionally trained to evaluate and diagnose your symptoms, as well as to treat them. The symptoms of most emotional conditions will not just dissipate without treatment. Counselors can also help you and your family resolve issues that have developed because of the condition.

 

  1. To improve the unhappy state of a marriage or cope with/embrace being alone.

For countless people, romantic relationships take center stage in their lives, and their happiness is tied to them. This means that they are happy when they have fulfilling relationships and feel miserable when their relationships become unhappy. Following this line of thought, an unhappy marriage can contribute to your anxiety and depression, and having no relationship can also make you unhappy.

With a counselor, your dynamics with your spouse or partner can get better as you improve the quality of your communication. Talking can improve your relationship as it fosters understanding of each other’s inner thoughts and actions. Seeing a counselor can also help you see meaning in your existence and feel not alone, even if you are not in a romantic relationship.

 

  1. To overcome complicated grief brought on by a loss.

Bereavement and healing from grief are normal processes. However, if they are taking an unusually long time, it can be a case of complicated grief or persistent complex bereavement disorder. This type of grief can make letting go and moving forward agonizingly slow, dragging out from months to years. It can lead to social withdrawal and loss of interest in usual everyday tasks, as well as excessive guilt, depression, or trauma, if you lost someone in a tragic manner.

Though complicated grief can be paralyzing, you can overcome it with counseling. It is important to seek professional help, because the symptoms can go overboard if not treated.

 

  1. To help your children with their own challenges and issues.

Well-adjusted children and teens enjoy their childhood/adolescence more than those who are weighed down by emotional and behavioral issues. As a parent, you want your child to have a happy, good life and take full advantage of their potential. This may not be possible when they have heavy emotional baggage to carry.

Young people can benefit greatly from counseling and therapy if they are saddled by an emotional condition or have experienced a traumatic life event. They can also benefit by discovering ways to adjust and handle challenges such as low self-esteem with confidence and other skills. 

 

  1. To help yourself or your family battle addiction and relapse.

Substance abuse and addiction can spell disaster for a person’s brain, body, and life. The longer the addiction goes on, the more it can impair their ability to make decisions, interact with other people, and control behaviors or reactions to life situations. Addiction can render your family helpless and hopeless as the battle against the substance and relapse goes on and on.

Counseling can assist the affected member to stand firm against relapse and is usually integrated into “aftercare” programs for people going through rehabilitation. It can also resolve issues that may affect everyone in the family. Family counseling can offer a number of benefits if you seek it.

 

  1. To facilitate self-acceptance and inspire self-esteem.

Poor self-image can intensely limit your or a child’s development because it can prevent you (or your child) from getting the most out of your potential and capabilities. Low self-esteem can affect your emotional health. It can make you focus on avoiding mistakes, rather than on growing and improving. It can make you miss out on a lot of wonderful opportunities throughout life.

Know that low self-esteem often begins in childhood. A counselor can help a child develop healthy self-esteem or help trace the beginning of an adult’s self-esteem problems, as well as assisting you in sorting out and resolving your past and current issues. It isn’t too late to work on your self-acceptance and self-esteem.

 

  1. To help yourself manage overwhelming emotions.

Multiple life changes can be overwhelming, even if they are welcome changes, but it can get worse if they are not. Feeling overwhelmed can lead to health complications, as well as irritability, depression, anxiety, and other emotional conditions. The overall quality of your life may deteriorate and your academics/work and relationships may suffer.

Counseling or therapy can help you understand the roots of your responses and gain an improved perspective on the circumstances. This will help you sort out your key issues and process your emotions and thoughts to stop them from overwhelming you.

 

Counseling is a positive thing. You can be better prepared when you are guided by a counselor.

Counseling isn’t just for people who are struggling with emotional conditions or lost in a sea of conflicts. Kathleen Smith of Bustle says, “Science tells us that speaking your fears and goals out loud to somebody in person is powerful. Therapists are trained to not judge you, and can help you map out a new strategy for life.” Thus, it is also for those who are proactively seeking ways to improve their resilience and ability to handle major life issues and life-altering events. Insight found in therapy can prevent minor issues from getting bigger or worse.

 

Counseling is empowering. It can help you manage and handle difficult life situations, enhance the quality of your relationships, and make better or informed decisions. It can also:

  1. Increase your self-awareness and improve self-acceptance.

Knowing yourself better can help you understand your responses to varied life situations. It can improve self-awareness and boost your self-esteem, which are important in surviving life challenges. It does not guarantee a perfect life, but it can help you have a more fulfilling life.

Don’t people with spotless teeth still see a dentist regularly to maintain their dental/oral health? Why can’t people who want to maintain a healthy emotional state also see a counselor? Seeing a counselor is positive and empowering. Increasing self-awareness can help you enhance your resilience to stay strong in the midst of adversity.

 

  1. Help you achieve better life balance.

Losing balance is a possibility when you are confronted by unexpected challenges and issues. You may focus on the problems while other aspects of your life stand still or deteriorate for lack of attention. This survival mechanism can, therefore, make you lose control over important aspects of your life.

The ultimate worth of counseling could lie in helping you achieve better overall life balance and harmony. Its positive influence can improve your relationships with the people you care about and work with.

There are many benefits to gain when you are assisted by a counselor. A caring, impartial, and capable counselor contracted with Carolina Counseling Services Sanford, NC, can help you if you make the call for your first appointment. Counseling is positive and empowering. Call now to start experiencing its benefits.

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services
 
 
Counties:  Lee, Harnett and Moore County, NC
 
 
Areas: Bear Creek, NC, Berkley Place NC, Bonlee, NC, Brentwood NC, Broadway, NC, Brookhaven NC, Brookwood NC, Buffalo Lake, NC, Bynum, NC, Cameron, NC, Carbonton Heights NC, Carrboro NC, Carthage, NC, Cary NC, Chapel Hill NC, Clayton, NC Clearwater Forest NC, Colon, NC, Colonial Acres NC, Courtland Acres NC, Cumnock, NC, Duncan, NC, Fearrington Village, NC, Glendon, NC, Goldston, NC, Graham NC, Gulf, NC, Hanover Circle NC, Harpers Crossroads, NC, Hawkins Run NC, High Falls, NC, Highland Acres NC, Jonesboro Heights NC, Kipling, NC, Lemon Springs, NC, Lillington, NC, Longview Acres NC, Mamers, NC, McCracken Heights NC, Moncure, NC, New Hill, NC, Olivia, NC, Osgood, NC, Pineview, NC, Planters Ridge NC, Sanford NC, Shallowell, NC, Spout Springs NC, Tramway, NC, Vass, NC, Westcroft NC, Western Hills NC, Whispering Pines, NC, White Hill, NC.
 
 
Zip Codes: 27330, 27332, 28327, 27505, 27546

Counseling Information

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (919) 895-3222 (Fastest way to schedule)
  • Text: (910) 308-3291 (Reply will be via phone)
  • Email:   Verna@ccs.hush.com (You must include your phone number, because replies will only be made by telephone to ensure security/privacy)
  • Call or Text for your New Patient Appointment Anytime!
  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5pm
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!
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Sanford, NC 27330

7 Ways to Benefit from Counseling

Nearly everyone experiences challenges and difficulties in life at some point in time. The impact can be overwhelming and the results can leave you helpless.

Grief over the death of a loved one, uncertainty due to unemployment, difficulties in a relationship, or stress over a job, are just some examples of day-to-day concerns that can disturb your normal way of living.

When faced with personal issues, you can consider going to counseling to alleviate the difficulties that’s causing you emotional distress. Whether it’s your idea or someone else, talking to a professional can help you in more ways than you can imagine.

Here are seven things that counseling does:

1. Identifies the root cause of problems – Sometimes the uneasiness or anxiety won’t go away, but you can’t pinpoint exactly what’s wrong. This is your intuition bubbling up into your consciousness. You may not be able to know the reason of your distressing condition and may not be equipped to sort through the mire of confused thinking. Using proven methods and strategies, therapists can guide you towards identifying the deeper roots of what seems to be affecting you. Counseling can help dig up the truth (and resolve it).

2. Increases self-esteem – Everyone has his own share of worries, but you may think you’re having more specific problems than the rest. Negativity and other blocks can powerfully make you lose your self-esteem. All nuisances can be addressed, managed and resolved, especially when there is someone who has the skills to help. Counseling strengthens good feelings about who you are.

3. Improves relationships - Negative emotions, such as insecurity, greed, and jealousy are some of the common causes why relationships fail. Most importantly, a failure in the relationship is generally caused by a break down in the communication. Whether it’s between spouses, family members, friends, work or business colleagues, the intervention of a counselor can help the involved parties restore communication to better understand what each other is saying, to include the emotions and hopes. Only then can a resolution be made to end the conflict.

4. Presents the options available – Counseling allows you to explore the options you’re probably too blind to see due to your current concerns. It helps open your mind to enable you to objectively see and weigh the pros and cons of all the possibilities. With counseling, the muddled or negative thoughts about your options may be effectively clarified through the intervention of the therapist. With your therapist’s unbiased views and strategies, you can be helped to conquer what’s getting in the way of achieving your goals.

5. Eliminates negativity – One objective of counseling is to remove negative or illogical thinking patterns, false beliefs, hopelessness, and other interrupting factors that block your goals. Negativity is very powerful. It can erode every progress that therapy achieves. Once the road is clear of negativity, you become more constructive in your way of thinking and more focused on exploring what’s interesting, productive, and essential to hitting your target successfully.

6. Provides life-changing tools and skills – Counseling offers more than relief. It also provides tools, strategies and skills to curb, manage or modify extreme responses to achieve long-lasting benefits, which may go beyond the symptoms. These tools, strategies and skills can help you face and handle life challenges and difficulties that come your way with more confidence and as you transform your life positively.

7. Makes you feel good – Talking about what you feel and think can help make you feel better. However, not everyone has the time to listen or is able to understand you. With counseling, there is a supportive person with whom you can voice out what’s weighing you down. Talking and being listened to by someone caring and non-judgmental doesn’t only help you feel good; it is also a healing process in itself.

Focusing on the benefits of counseling is a positive approach to eliminate the road blocks that hinder you from getting the help you need. Gone are the days when seeking professional help means “weakness” or “social stigma.” These days, counseling is regarded as a proactive stance in facing life and its challenges. In truth, seeking counseling is an act of personal empowerment. It is a statement that you want to be free from the nagging issues in your life. Thus, it takes more than courage to see a therapist.

If you want to experience these counseling benefits, you only need to call Carolina Counseling Services, which now has an office in Sanford, NC. It has independently contracted counselors with different specializations. If you’re fortunate to find the perfect match for you, you can start looking for positive changes and better days ahead.

Signs and Symptoms of Emotional Issues on Young Children

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It is common for parents to dream big for their children and to do whatever it takes to support them. Knowing that journeying with their children can best express their support and love, many are even willing to put their personal aspirations aside to offer their child their undivided attention. Thus, it can be very painful and scary for parents to realize that their beloved child is encumbered with an emotional issue, diminishing their chance for a rewarding life and successful achievement of their dreams.

Regrettably, young children, even babies and toddlers, are not immune from emotional conditions. They are as vulnerable as adults. Unlike grownups, however, children cannot do anything to improve their conditions on their own. Your child needs you to help them. This is why it is important for you not to take unusual behaviors or manifestations for granted because they can be signs or symptoms of an emotional condition or a behavioral issue.

Why Should You Be Concerned

Aside from loving your child and wanting to help them reach for their star, there are other compelling reasons why you need to know when they need professional help. One, the manifestations of an emotional condition or behavioral issue can potentially interfere with your child’s everyday life. Two, many parents find it be difficult to recognize the signs and symptoms to look for. Without the recognition, you may not be able to promptly provide the understanding, support and help they need.

This leads to the third reason – undiagnosed, the condition will likely be untreated until the symptoms become serious or debilitating. Even when the symptoms remain undetected, there is no guarantee the signs will stay insignificant or eventually dissipate. There is always a big chance it can wreak havoc on your child when they become adults, making it difficult for them to keep relationships and hold a job.

The Conditions to Watch Out For

As a caring parent who wants to stay vigilant against dangers that may threaten your child’s life, health, dreams, and future, it also helps to be knowledgeable of the emotional conditions that can affect your child. Mayo Clinic shares this list of conditions – “anxiety disorders, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), autism spectrum disorder (ASD), eating disorders, and mood disorders, and schizophrenia.”

Depending on the type of anxiety, it can make your child jittery, tense, or extremely afraid. ADHD can make them impulsive, restless and incapable of paying attention. ASD can set in very early, delaying your child’s developmental process. Eating conditions, mood disorders, and schizophrenia often appear when they are older.

PsychGuides’ list of behavioral disorders (BehaviorDisorder.org) offers this list – “anxiety disorders, disruptive behavioral disorders, dissociative disorders, emotional disorders, and pervasive developmental disorders.” One example is oppositional defiant disorder or ODD. It is characterized by irritability, hostility, and defiance. They can be deliberately unkind and exasperating, and they usually direct their defiant actions at authorities.

Know the Signs and Trust Your Instincts

You can’t just let your child be saddled by the symptoms that can affect their ability to focus during their learning activities in school, control their reactions and feelings, interact with others and be happy. For well-meaning parents, it isn’t only important to care. It is also critical that you know the signs and symptoms to pay attention to, so you will know when your child may need to see a therapist.

Some symptoms to pay attention to include mood swings, intense responses (tantrums, fast breathing, racing heartbeat, etc.), drastic changes in attitude and behavior, difficulty staying focused, loss of appetite, sleeplessness, and physical pains.

Confused or not understanding what’s happening, your child may also manifest their agitation, fear or sadness in unique ways (or ways different from an adult), such as clumsiness, anger or tantrums. These unique signs can mislead or make you doubtful. Trust your instincts. When in doubt, heed Gallaudet University’s suggestion to take a proactive action when the following symptoms are observed:

Inappropriate actions or emotions under normal circumstances
• Learning difficulties that are not caused by another health factor
• Difficulty with interpersonal relationships, including relationships with teachers and peers
• A general feeling of unhappiness or depression
• Feelings of fear and anxiety related to personal or school matters

The Proactive Action to Take

If your child has an emotional condition, their symptoms must be assessed for the condition to be precisely diagnosed. This serves as the basis for the treatment options or plans. It will be to your child’s advantage to be assessed, diagnosed and treated as soon as possible to prevent the symptoms from getting worse. For a more accurate assessment, be sincere and thorough with the information you will share with the therapist. Do not let any road block hold you back. You are likely to feel better when you know you have a good therapist from Carolina Counseling Services - Sanford, NC.

Your child can’t survive the condition without your help, and you can’t endure this challenge better than with a capable therapist. It will not be weakness to ask for assistance from an expert. Seeking professional help and exploring treatment options from CCS is, in fact, a courageous, proactive and loving act. Then is no better way to support your child’s big dream or passion than by calling Carolina Counseling Services - Sanford, NC, now.

Marriage Counseling: Proactively Reinforcing an Enduring Marriage

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Children may grow up believing that their relationships will be like the fairy-tale “happily ever after” ending in Disney movies, until they realize that it takes a lot of effort to make a marriage work. In real life, even the most loving and romantic couples get their own share of issues to cry over or despair about. It isn’t about losing one’s voice to Ursula or avoiding a wicked stepmom’s poisoned apple so as not to fall asleep for all eternity. It’s about resolving real problems that can rock their union and staying strong in the face of numerous challenges.

Even if these issues are small, they have to be resolved if the marriage is to last. Otherwise, they can grow to become major threats, leading to unhappiness or divorce. According to the American Psychological Association, there is an “approximately fifty percent chance of divorcing” in the United States.

There are effective ways to make your “I do” endure. You can proactively seek marriage counseling to resolve your issues and to strengthen your relationship.

The Reality: Your Marriage Has Weaknesses

Your relationship with your spouse is not perfect, and neither are you. Despite the love that binds you and the many years spent together, challenges will crop up along the way. There will be differences that can potentially breed major conflicts. There will be relationship issues, parenting concerns, financial matters, domestic conflicts, and many other things that can trigger arguments and misunderstanding. All these are normal, but they can rock your marriage and affect your family in ways you may not have imagined.

The thing is, you and your spouse are different from each other and you have imperfections. While these differences can spice up your days together, they can also ruin your marriage, if the conflicts they create are left unresolved. Be positive, though: these differences can be processed in a healthy way and make your bond stronger if you work on them proactively in counseling.

The Proactive Strategy: Marriage Counseling

In most cultures, loving couples work on making their relationships successful by themselves. In general, marriage counseling is seen an option to save a union when years of effort have failed. By then, the damage may have gone too deep, making the differences irreconcilable. To prevent this, rather than working on your issues without help, seek marriage counseling when they first arise.

What is marriage counseling? Mayo Clinic says, “Marriage counseling, also called couples therapy, is a type of psychotherapy. Marriage counseling helps couples of all types recognize and resolve conflicts and improve their relationships. Through marriage counseling, you can make thoughtful decisions about rebuilding your relationship or going your separate ways.”

Marriage counseling is effective because it is a proactive approach. It is strategic because the issues are resolved early before they have a chance to build up. If you are handling your marital issues alone without a third-party counselor and you are not effectively resolving them, it is time to consider this strategy. Seeing a marriage counselor can help you avoid an unhappy union and/or divorce.

The Benefits of Seeing a Counselor

Seeing a marriage counselor is a good decision when you or your spouse are experiencing a major life transition, you have stopped talking, or your past unresolved issues keep taking center stage in your life. It is a sound solution to embrace when your conflicts are making you unhappy or contributing to emotional conditions such as anxiety or depression. Resolving your conflicts is also important if they are affecting your children.

Counseling is worth considering even when your marital issues are simple ones. With a counselor to help you, you can stay positive as you process and manage your differences, so they do not become sources of future major conflicts. With counseling, you can also nurture your love for each other to make your relationship strong and enduring through the years, especially during the tough times. There are at least six ways for counseling to help you in this post: Six Ways a Therapist Can Help You Resolve Marital Conflict.

Start Reinforcing Your Marriage the Proactive Way

When you both said “I do” years ago, there was no doubt in your minds that you wanted to spend the rest of your life together. Don’t be discouraged when conflicts assail you; they are normal. Don’t expect them to just dissipate, either; they may not. The worst thing that can happen is for them to build up and become monstrous, engulfing the foundation of your marriage—love, trust and respect.

The perfect “happily ever after” may not come as easily for you as it does for Disney couples. You can live a happy life together with your beloved spouse, but not without effort or help. Start by working on resolving the small issues that can potentially threaten your marriage. Start by tossing away the myths, unsolicited advice, and conventional approaches that can only prolong your unhappiness. Start by being proactive. Let a third-party marriage counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services - Sanford, NC, help you.

You may be scared to break away from conventional practices and feel uncomfortable sharing your concerns with a stranger. If you love each other, find the courage to make that call to Carolina Counseling Services -Sanford, NC. Your counselor will make it easier for you to forget what society may conventionally dictate. Focus on the benefits of your decision to seek help: a stronger emotional connection and a stronger marriage. While issues may still arise, counseling can help you resolve them as a loving, connected, and committed couple.

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Specializes in: (5+) Children, Adolescents, Adults, Families, Couples, Anxiety, Academic/Behavioral, Attention disorders, Adjustment Issues, Depression, Grief & Trauma, Mood disorders, Oppositional Defiance, Self-Harm, LGBT, Parenting, Intimacy & Relationship issues, Substance Abuse.
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How Counseling Helps Children Resolve Behavior Problems

When parents notice that their child is overly aggressive and quarrelsome, it is sometimes hard for them to do more than give the child a scolding or subject the child to some disciplinary action. Often the behavior problems escalate, and parents may start receiving feedback from teachers about the child’s disruptive behavior. Some parents may even be called to the principal’s office because of their child’s behavior.

One of the things parents need to realize is that there are times when professional help is needed so that a child can learn to curb their problematic behavior. Here are some of the signs that should alert you to this need and take a look at how counseling can help solve behavior problems.

More than Just Being Mischievous

All children will engage in mischievous antics at one time or another; that is a normal part of growing up. However, there are some behavior problems that tell you your child needs help.

• The child has frequent tantrums, and these may be more intense than what you observe in other children. Moreover, these tantrums can come with little or no provocation.

• The child habitually breaks rules – even important ones that have to do with safety or those with serious penalties. The child may also exhibit a conscious intent to break rules.

• The child disrupts lessons, roams around the class, and pays no attention or openly defies the teacher.

• The child gets into fights with other children. This can be so frequent you have stopped getting invitations for play dates and the like.

• Hostile and disobedient are two words that describe the child’s behavior perfectly. Teachers may even complain about this. Bullying, lying, and stealing can also take place, and these behaviors may even cause you to become isolated from other parents.

• You may notice that the child hurts animals and does this without compunction.

• The child seems to have secrets/tell lies frequently.

These are but a few of the behavior concerns that beset quite a number of children, and parents often try to sail through this on their own. When this happens, a considerable emotional burden is placed on both children and parents. Professional counseling helps lighten this burden and provides a well-informed direction towards resolving issues that cause children to act out, have tantrums, or engage in disruptive behavior.

What Counseling Does

Counseling helps identify the root causes of behavior problems in children, and following a thorough assessment, a program can then be designed to meet individual needs. If you want the kind of therapy that will help your child behave in a constructive and positive way, call Carolina Counseling Services - Sanford, NC .

Through sessions with their independently contracted counselors, your child can grow into one who can verbalize feelings and opinions without resorting to aggression or tantrums. Call now and see how their skilled counselors will help you learn skills that lead to well-adjusted children and improved family relations.

Is It Time to Talk to a Marriage Counselor?

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Conflicts are normal in even the healthiest marriages. Not wanting to be petty, you may ignore small disagreements; unfortunately, this is how most major tiffs start. Over time, minor concerns can become magnified into bigger issues.

Major issues do not just come like a “thief in the night.” Often, they build up right under your nose until an explosion is triggered, threatening the foundation of your personal union and everything you have worked hard for through the years—respect, trust, joy, and even love.

Is it too late to call in a marriage counselor for help? Maybe not, but the process will be longer and more painful if you have allowed conflict to significantly weaken the foundation of your marriage. The intensification of negative emotions can be prevented if you consider marriage counseling earlier. To do that, however, you should be able to recognize the signs that the time has come to talk to a marriage counselor.

What are the signs that your marriage needs attention and that counseling is needed?

Sign 1: You can’t talk without shouting or feeling frustrated.

Talking is an important tool for clarifying issues as well as expressing your love to each other. When you can’t talk anymore without feeling frustrated or angry, your relationship has no way to go but down. The breakdown of communication is a signal of unhappy days.

Verbal attacks or use of hurting words to get even or to dominate an argument is not good. It can hurt both of you as well as your children. Marital concerns can affect the whole family, breeding emotional issues—anger, frustration, guilt, anxiety, sadness, grief, etc.—for everyone.

Sign 2: You are caught up in a vicious cycle, arguing the same issues.

When you argue about similar things repeatedly, it is a sign that you have major unresolved issues. Bringing up painful past concerns is not healthy. You have to move on, forgive, and forget.

However, if you or your spouse can’t bring yourself to bury the past, it will continue to hound you. If the issues affect your relationship or your family, it is time to reopen them. Resurfacing the issues is like reopening the floodgates of emotion. It is easier if you do this with an experienced counselor.

Sign 3: There are secrets you keep from one another.

It is true that marriage does not require you to surrender your individuality. You still have your right to privacy, especially if it does not affect your spouse or family, such as in matters pertaining to work. However, family or marital matters should be shared with your spouse.

Intentionally keeping something secret is a sign that it can hurt your family. If sharing something is troubling you, and you fear it can cause serious complications, an unbiased counselor can help you.

Sign 4: You avoid intimacy or it suddenly becomes intense.

Physical intimacy in a marriage is important. More than satisfying a biological need, it is an expression of love. Thus, avoiding intimate moments may be a serious indication that your relationship is losing its stability. If your intimacy has suddenly become intense, it can also be a sign that something is off, because it can be an attempt to cover up an offense being committed outside the home.

Because intimacy is an important element of a marital relationship, do not delay seeing a counselor for help. A marriage counselor can help you sort out and resolve your issues so you can work on bringing romance back to your relationship.

Sign 5: You are often embroiled in clashes about almost everything.

Don’t we all gravitate toward the opposite pole? While little clashes can be romantic when you make up, they can wear you out in the long run. If even the most minor decision is argued about, if both parties want to win all the time, or if there is no more peace in the house and everyone is feeling distressed by the frequent arguments, it is not only the marriage that is at stake, but the whole family’s emotional health.

Parenting and money are two issues that couples commonly stress about. You can’t resolve these unless you agree or compromise on certain rules. If the rules can’t be established without conflict, it is time to seek help from a counselor.

Sign 6: You are proactive or eager to stay together as a couple.

Marriage counseling is a proactive stance that can make a marriage stronger. It can help resolve minor issues so that they don’t build up and steal the respect, love, trust, and joy that mean so much to both of you. If love has remained and you want to protect it from the effects of stressful conflicts, no matter how small they are, seek counseling. If there are issues that you worry will not be resolved, nip them in the bud early with counseling.

Counseling is not just for couples who are on the verge of separation or divorce. You do not only seek counseling to save a marriage or a family from disintegrating, or as a last resort in an unhappy union. It is for everyone in a loving relationship. It is first and foremost a proactive tool that should be used to keep a marriage happy and satisfying.

Keeping Marriage Strong with Counseling

Are any of these signs appearing in your marriage? If you want to wake up every morning and sleep every night happily with the person you are spending your life with, do something proactive for yourself and your spouse today. Call Carolina Counseling Services - Sanford, NC.

If money is an important concern, know that marriage counseling can be covered under “Family Counseling” if you have insurance. It is generally covered when emotional symptoms meet the criteria for DSM-5 diagnosis and are contributing to your conflicts. In this case, marriage counseling can be regarded as medically necessary for the treatment of an emotional condition.

Like most things in life, a happy marriage is not an accident. It is something that you need to nurture for it to stay strong and for your home to be a haven of love, peace, harmony, and joy. Considering your differences, conflicts are inevitable. With the help of a capable and unbiased counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services - Sanford, NC, you can prevent minor issues from escalating into major clashes.

If your marriage is saddled with too many issues, call us—the sooner the better. There are many other things we can help with if you call. Find out more about marriage counseling from the other blog posts in this section.

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Anxiety: What You Need to Know About it

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Anxiety is normal. In fact, it is a healthy response that puts your body and mind on the alert to handle challenging and dangerous situations. It can make you run faster when a stray dog chases you. It can help you carry heavy loads during a fire or an accident. It can save your life or help you pass a test.

However, constantly feeling anxious, even when there is no justifiable reason, can have a negative effect on your life. When an anxiety disorder puts your chemically driven “fight or flight” response in high gear, it can wreak havoc on your health, isolate you, and make it difficult to focus on other things that matter in your life.

Although anxiety is a functional and fundamental element of the human mind, it can be damaging when it is too strong and uncontrolled. Fear and worry can make you or a loved one their prisoner as they disrupt focus and interfere with life.

The Roots of Anxiety

What causes anxiety? Medical News Today (MNT) says it “may be caused by environmental factors, medical factors, genetics, brain chemistry, substance abuse, or a combination of these,” and it can be triggered by any stressful event in your life. WebMD says the triggers are generally external factors, such as issues at work/school or in personal relationships, a medical condition or its medication, substance abuse, financial troubles, or traumatic events.

Since there are many possible contributors to this emotional condition, it is hard to pinpoint the cause of an uncontrolled or aggravated “fight or flight” response. This is why professional help is important for the proper assessment and diagnosis of anxiety symptoms and their treatment. It is even more complicated with children, who may be unable to accurately express their thoughts and feelings and left confused and lost. The post The Anxious Child: Understanding Anxiety in Children will help you understand what may lead to it and how it can be triggered by distressing life events or experiences.

Recognizing the Signs of Anxiety

The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) says, “There are several different types of anxiety disorders. Examples include generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, and social anxiety disorder.” Knowing the signs is helpful; recognizing them can prompt you to seek professional help.

People with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) usually exhibit symptoms such as jitters and restlessness, difficulty focusing, irritability, feeling tired all the time, muscle tension, and difficulty sleeping.

If you experience frequent panic attacks, you may have panic disorder. A panic attack is characterized by “intense fear that may include palpitations, pounding heart, or accelerated heart rate; sweating; trembling or shaking; sensations of shortness of breath, smothering, or choking; and feeling of impending doom.”

If you struggle with social anxiety disorder or social phobia, you are likely to stiffen at the mere thought of meeting people, performing, or talking before a crowd. You are likely to be overwhelmed with a lot of emotions. You may feel apprehensive, worrying what people will think of you or that you may say or do the wrong things. You may feel overly self-conscious, embarrassed, and fearful. You may feel nauseous or tremble uncontrollably in social situations.

Apart from these three, anxiety disorders may also take the forms of: (1) specific phobias, which entail extreme fear of particular situations or objects; (2) obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), which involves having thoughts you can’t shake off and doing things compulsively to make you feel calm; and (3) post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), which is triggered by a traumatic experience.

Curbing Anxiety Symptoms

The symptoms of severe anxiety can overwhelmingly affect your life. If you have a fear of flying (aerophobia or aviophobia), you may have to turn down a long-awaited job promotion that entails traveling and meeting with clients or suppliers. If you are experiencing PTSD after serving a deployment order, you may have a hard time reconnecting with your family. If your child often bursts into tears or feels jittery all over for no reason, they may avoid people, denying them the joys of having fun with peers.

If there is one important thing you must know about anxiety, it is the fact that it is treatable. Don’t fall for the myths that it is just in your head or that you can snap out of it if you’re determined enough. Anxiety is not just in your head. It is an emotional condition and it has physical, biological components. If you are eager to enjoy your life once more with your loved ones and a promising job that you can keep, find the help you need from Carolina Counseling Services - Sanford, NC.

You may be able to try some natural remedies to help you relax or calm down, but the value of talking to a caring and experienced therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services - Sanford, NC, can’t be discounted. They will not only assess your symptoms and make an accurate diagnosis of your type of anxiety, but also offer treatment options and discuss them with you. Anxiety can make you feel overwrought and make it difficult to think of anything else. Rather than bear the brunt of them, curb those symptoms with the help of a therapist contracted with CCS. All you need to do is to make that call now.