Change is a constant in every person’s life. Some are welcomed changes like a job promotion, the birth of a child, a get together with old friends, etc. There can also be unwelcome changes that bring pain, guilt, and fear such as job loss, the loss of a loved one, coming home to an empty nest, etc. Both positive and negative changes can be sources of pressure and anxiety.

Life transitions can be extremely challenging. If you are having difficulty adjusting to a change you have no control over, you aren’t alone. Even when change is not welcomed, it can bring new opportunities. While you may know this to be true, it can be difficult to see on your own. Therapy can help.

Helping Your Child Adjust

Most children feel uncomfortable with change. Moving to a new home and school because of a PCS (permanent change of station) or divorce can upset them. If they become sad, irritable, withdrawn, start getting low grades, or refuse to go to school, do not ignore these signs. They may be having difficulty adjusting to the change.

A child who feels overwhelmed, guilty, or scared in a new life situation or environment may need more than a hug or encouragement. They may need to understand that the change is not their fault and find concrete ways to sort out and cope with their feelings. If you are also feeling overwhelmed because you are also adjusting it can be hard to know what to do.

Your child can benefit from therapy using age-appropriate techniques tailored to address their needs. Play therapy, talk therapy, and other creative approaches can help them accept change and empower them to approach new opportunities. Your child may even become more resilient when facing other challenges as they grow up.

Handling Young Adult Adjustment Issues

Becoming responsible for your own life (and perhaps a family later on) can be terrifying. You will be pressured to get a job to support your needs. You may pursue higher education to improve your job and finances. Around this age, you can be searching for “the one”. Though romance can be inspiring, it can also be nerve-wracking.

Adults have many critical decisions to make that affect their lives and futures, and they also need support as they navigate through life. You may find yourself striving to be stronger and more confident to reach your goals. Creating positive energy and motivation is not easy, especially during trying times.

To stand up against the rigors of adulthood, you need to invest in finding the right assistance to support you through the rough times. That assistance can be from someone who is trained to listen, provide encouragement, and help you adjust to life’s challenges. A caring and capable counselor can also help when you’re facing things such as depression, self-doubt, anxiety, or substance abuse.

Challenges of Later Adulthood

“How time flies!” Most people say when their children start leaving home to build their own nests. In the past you may have wished your children were grown and independent, but when the time comes, letting go can be difficult. Now that you’re all alone in your nest, it can be difficult not to miss being there to help your children every day.

What is “empty nest syndrome”? According to Psychology Today, “Our identities are defined by the various roles we play in life. The larger and more meaningful a role is, the more significant aspect of our identity it becomes.” Parenting is an important role that can certainly feel defining. This is why you may feel an emptiness when your last child leaves to build their own nest. Empty nest syndrome isn’t just about profoundly missing one’s child: it is also about the impact on your identity.

Adjusting to your children living far from you is complicated. You deserve support during this time to help you find ways to move forward and create a new chapter for yourself.

Adjusting to Change with CCS

Though life transitions can easily become overwhelming, remember that they can influence your life and personal growth in ways you may not have imagined. To adjust and then embrace the change whether it is expected, wished for, or unwanted, call Carolina Counseling Services – Sanford, NC.

CCS contracts with caring and skilled licensed therapists. Call now to get started. Online appointments are available! Providers are in network with most major insurances including Aetna, Aetna State Health Plan, Blue Cross and Blue Shield of North Carolina (Blue Cross NC), Tricare and more!